When a couple decides to get a divorce, it isn’t as simple as going their separate ways. The divorce process involves making difficult decisions regarding child custody and how to split property and debt equally and fairly, all of which can be a real challenge. This process takes time, and a lot of mental, emotional, and sometimes physical effort—just like a marathon.
Preparing for Divorce: Marathon Training
Just like training for a marathon, you also need to prepare adequately for a divorce long before it happens. Making sure you have all of your ducks in a row, such as organizing financial paperwork before filing can save you a ton of time, stress, and headaches.
Searching for and hiring the right divorce attorney in Florida will also take time and effort, especially if you haven’t had to hire one before. Do your research ahead of time by asking for recommendations and exploring each attorney’s credentials and expertise. Meeting with a divorce attorney before you retain him or her will give you a good idea about whether or not they will be a good fit for your needs.
Having a Good Coach Can Make a World of Difference
Training by yourself can be challenging, and it may be tempting to lose motivation. You also may not use the right training methods or simply not train enough. In the context of a divorce, you work with a team of people to prepare and finalize your divorce.
Your divorce attorney is a key player, of course, but you may also need to involve accountants, valuation experts, social service workers, and therapists, depending on your unique situation. Having the right team will not only ensure that you are prepared, but it will increase your chances of reaching desired results and legal outcomes.
Time and Patience
Like training for a marathon, the process of divorce takes time and patience. While it is possible to go through a divorce process in a few months, more complicated or contested divorces can take up to two years. That timeline only begins once the divorce paperwork has been filed with the Florida Court officially, even if planning for divorce began long beforehand.
Keep in mind that you will likely be separated from your spouse during the divorce process, and there may be temporary orders in place if you have children or need to deal with an immediate separation of assets. However, these temporary orders are just that—temporary. You will need to go through the full process by either negotiating with your spouse to reach an agreement or having a trial in front of a judge to finalize the matter.
The Painful Effects Can Linger
Again, much like a marathon, the painful effects or “soreness” can linger long after the race—or divorce—is over. Even after receiving a final divorce decree from a judge, you still have to deal with the “fallout” of a divorce. For example, couples who have shared parenting time for their children may need to make adjustments for years to come to ensure that each parent is getting their fair share of time with the child(ren). Alimony and child support payments may also continue for years after the divorce is finalized.
You also may need to deal with the complications that divorce has on your personal life. Financial changes may affect you, or you may need to “rebuild” your life, both personally and professionally. Depending on your situation, it can take several years for the “dust to settle” after making some initial adjustments. The best way to “train” or prepare is to set realistic expectations with yourself in terms of how long the divorce process will realistically take, and how much time it will take you to adjust.
Getting the Right Help with an Experienced Divorce Attorney in Florida
At the Law Offices of Travis R. Walker, we know just how far-reaching the effects of divorce can be. Preparing, going through the process, and then dealing with the aftermath takes significant time and effort. However, our team has been preparing for this marathon for years, and we can use that experience to guide you through the process and help you “win” over the long run.